Several years ago I got to see, with extreme clarity, that this is all made up… by us. At that point I thought if this is all pretend, then why not pretend to be someone with a cloak and a wand? I’d look pretty cute with a cloak… Indeed. You can be whoever you want. Who have you been recreating subconsciously?
My Mom was always quite practical, and her wardrobe of jeans and t-shirts reflected that. I knew that wasn’t me, but it took me years to move away from the familiar. This is much deeper than any “dress the part” philosophy, but that’s a good place to start. What type of clothes do you wear? Do they reflect who you really are? Do they belong to a past version of you? Are they chosen to project a false image? Do they compliment your essence?
After you figure out who you want to be, wardrobe is a great place to start. I recommend spending less than $50 at a time, and shopping at thrift stores, at least until you find a style. Pretend it’s a costume, until you find something that really makes you happy. Feel free to try things, and give away what doesn’t work for you. Thrift stores rock. When was the last time you really thought about the clothes you wear? When was the last time you bought clothes for a reason? This is the biggest reason: outward reflection of who you are inside.
Next, look at your speech, what you eat and drink, and your posture. Keep in mind, nothing is wrong with what you currently do, this exercise is simply to bring awareness to the character you are creating on a daily basis. So many of us just live out of habit, which is just another way to say we live subconsciously, doing what we’ve always done. Some things you look at will be perfectly you, just as they are, while others will simply be outdated. The only way to know is to take awareness into your daily life.
This brings me to phase two of the creation of your future self… Visualize. I am currently disabled, but my future self dances (as I also did in the past). Visualize. Meditate and visualize. See yourself happy, healthy, and fulfilled, and maybe even chat with the future you. What will it take to move in that direction? I guarantee steps can be taken, without large chunks of time and money, but only you can take those necessary steps.
Again, there is no wrong or right, just levels of awareness. In my world right now, my diet is changing (yet again). We always have pancakes on Sunday, and I love pancakes, but the last couple of times I ate them didn’t feel great. Bummer! But feeling better is just more important to who I am than the taste of my weakly treat. It isn’t wrong to choose taste and keep eating them, it just isn’t aligned with my essence. MY essence. For someone else, maybe the other choice is more in line with who they want to be. Only you know who you want to be.
On the other hand, my hair style hasn’t significantly changed in decades. I love my hair, just the way it is. I consider changing it, either cut or color, probably yearly, but I am just really happy with it. It’s in line with who I want to be… at least for now. Don’t fix what ain’t broke.
For every single thing you do just because you’ve “always done it like that”, now is the time to reevaluate. Are you still that person? Were you ever? More importantly, do you want to be that person in the future? You really do get to choose. Stop recreating what no longer serves you.
This is a potent time for change, if you are willing to put forth the effort of awareness. Examine every detail of your life to be sure you are creating the person you want to be when you grow up. Stop recreating the person you aren’t. There is no fault, just lack of awareness. Nothing is wrong, yet maybe it can be more right. Align with who you really are. Take the first steps to become the new you.