Who do you want to be when you grow up? I ask myself this question regularly, just to be sure I’m on track. I think the common reply would be: “I want to be happy” or “I want to be loved”. This isn’t what I mean. Maybe a better question is, how do you want to be remembered? That takes the selfish motivation out of it. And really, you get all the selfish stuff when you look at the bigger picture.
Now isn’t the time to keep doing what you’ve always done. Stretch yourself. Instead of the same old reaction to a situation, take a step back. Ask yourself what reply is most like the person you want to be remembered as. Now is the time to make different choices. To shift into the next level of your personal evolution.
If you have been doing your inner work for some time, this may be fine tuning. It may be a new world view, or creating a new dynamic in your life. If you are struggling, or new to this game of shadow work, it may mean reaching out to a healer or therapist. Now is the time to take a step. Only you know what you need, and only you can make the choice to act. What would you want people to remember about you? If you died today, what would they actually remember? The shift is the difference between those two questions.
My Grandma died when I was 18. People said the most amazing, and totally true, things at her memorial. It made me think of what people would say about me if I died right then. Yikes! I have spent my whole life moving toward the mark I wish to leave on the world. It’s not at all about what other people think, it’s about a legacy. What energy will you leave behind? Stepping fully into your soul path always leads to beautiful places, and it also leaves your personal energy signature. Following the path of the ego is short lived at this point. Ego structures are no longer supported. Best to realign now.
Changing a dynamic can mean many things, all of which include boundaries. I have a friend I’ve known since junior high. About 20 years into the friendship, he started getting really flaky, and not keeping our plans together. It was painful to be so obviously unimportant. I had a choice to make… I could either cut him out of my life entirely, or lower my expectations of him showing up. We weren’t really close to begin with, and I did like having him in my life, so I chose to adjust my expectations. From then on, I wouldn’t expect him to show up, and it was a nice surprise when he did. I had another long-term friend who became more toxic as the years passed, so I felt the best option was to go our separate ways. There is no right answer. Every situation is different. Boundaries are essential, not just for your well-being, but also for your own timeline.
Changing a dynamic most often includes another person, or a personal place holder, like partner. You can also change a dynamic with your own experience or judgement. Recently, I have been reviewing my relationship with Trust. What Trust has meant in the past, and how it is changing. Before, broken trust meant a broken relationship. Now it means reevaluating boundaries. Also, being redirected (with broken Trust) is a powerful way the Universe moves me to where I need to be. Reevaluate everything.
So how do we choose which way to turn? I let my body choose. If we get stuck in thoughts and emotion, we’ll just run around the same box we’ve been living in. Same box, same timeline. The body has it’s own wisdom. Here is my technique:
Settle into a comfortable place
Take a minute to breathe and relax
Feel how your body feels, in this neutral space
Think of option A, and note the changes in how your body feels
Return to the neutral space of just breathing, until your body relaxes again
Think of option B, and note the changes in how your body feels
Try this technique on insignificant stuff first, to build the body connection. Try it on different foods – Does my body want meat or veggies? Does my body want water or tea? Take note of how your body reacts when you choose to eat certain things. Does it feel similar to what it felt like when you were just thinking about them? A strong body connection can really be a great guidance. Even when you are full of thoughts and emotion, your body can be your compass.
Start taking baby steps to shake-up the old energy dynamics. If you are naturally quite structured, mix up your routine. If you are a “go with the flow” person, add a little structure to your day. It can be small, maybe ten minutes twice a day, but consciously choose to disrupt your usual pattern. Let the energy break away and shift. What goes, let it go. You are making room for the new. It’s never too late, and the steps are never too small.
Only you can make these changes. Conscious choice is the first step to sovereignty. From personal power, to absolute accountability, to esoteric power, we climb into complete freedom. Un-cage the mind. Release the programming. Boldly go where no one has gone before. Choose your timeline, and we’re off!
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