Walking In Both Worlds

The Mothership has lifted off… did you feel it? The first wave is now in the 5th dimension. Why are we still in physical form? Because that’s the whole point – to physically ascend. It doesn’t mean we won’t ever have another “normal” human day, but it does mean now we always have another option. Before, we had to ride the waves, but now we can choose which wave to be on. Remember in the movie ‘The Matrix’ when Neo started seeing in code? Then he could change his surroundings, just by seeing what “reality” was made of? It’s like that. This is gonna be a strange post.

Time is so different from this vantage point. You can access any point in time by calling up the energy (feeling) of it. Bring your full attention to the present moment (no future worry or past regret), then focus on a feeling (energetic, not emotional) you want to experience, then allow that feeling to be fully present now. I know this sounds like the same old psycho-babble, but this is different. As you may know, I’m disabled and slowly healing, but I have pretty dramatic ups and downs. Using this technique, I can now create a physical change when I’m having a down swing. Physical change… not just happier mental space. This is huge!

What I have so far is pretty much the usual – be fully present, keep your heart open with gratitude, and love as much as possible. From that space, play with time a bit. Play with magnetizing people and situations into your life. Just play. Be aware and experience. And talk to your body. The whole reason you get to enjoy this experience is that your body is hosting your consciousness. Support it in any way it asks.

For those not in this first wave, don’t freak out on me. It isn’t like a bus schedule… the door is open now, you can come on in whenever you’re ready. I can already hear the reply, “Wait! I’m totally ready right now!” You will be ready when your own self-mastery becomes more important than any story. More important than your job or relationship… more important than partying with your friends… more important than status or money… even more important than your own happiness. Self-mastery is the key to ascension, and only you can decide to make it a priority.

For a couple days now, all I hear is “embody”. I am still doing life stuff (laundry today), but I am taking 15 minutes, a few times each day, to be fully present and open. Higher dimensions of ourselves are descending into our bodies and our awareness. You aren’t going crazy, you’ve just outgrown the human sized box you were in. This is easier for me lying down, and sunshine or hot baths ease integration. And the work only intensifies at night. Dreamtime has been extremely busy.

So, there you have it – time travel and multi-dimensional living. Welcome to the future… in the present.

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The big theme for the past week has been an overwhelming feeling of the old path dying, the new path being unclear, and being stuck in this in-between state. Sorry for the delay in updating… I’ve been right there with you… treading water, battling shadows, and trying to find my way out. It’s been pretty rough out there. Be gentle with yourself, others, and life. This too shall pass.

On the Higher Planes, things have been quite busy. You may have even felt a lack of presence or support from your Guides. They are still there, they are just moving everything into place for the next step. They have been quite busy, and moving non-stop. They support you in more ways than you know, and will always come when you call. Remember to call. Ask them (out loud) for whatever you need. You aren’t alone. Just asking them to help me feel their presence is quite comforting.

So here’s what happened… we did a bunch of timeline jumps in September, and felt pretty good about a direction for our lives in January, then we did a bunch more jumping between eclipses in February, and now we are on a whole new timeline. Very disorienting. We had a direction, we were just getting into the swing of it, now we are completely lost… wow. Is there a map or something? Don’t worry, we are done with timeline jumping (for now), and this new direction will start to take form in the next couple of weeks.

Your body has to integrate all this also, so be kind to yourself. Lots of water, lots of sleep. Eating patterns will fluctuate, so let them. After barely eating for months, I am suddenly back up to a couple meals a day. Epsom salt baths help. Sit in the sun. Move your body gently, maybe stretching, light yoga, or a walk around the block. Support your body through this process.

On a practical level, take baby steps. Your intuition has (or will) pointed you in the right direction. Leaps and bounds aren’t required at this stage, but keep moving. Take small actions in the direction you are guided. It might feel odd to be stepping into the unknown, but the new path will get clearer by equinox, then it’s full speed ahead in April. Stay ahead of the game, and start taking small steps now.

This ascension thing isn’t for wimps! You are doing great, and you aren’t alone. You are surrounded in both the physical world and the unseen by an incredible support group. We got this!

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The eclipse energy was so strong yesterday. It marks a new beginning, which also brings endings. We felt the final curtain fall on something in our lives, and now we start to move into our future. But first, be gentle with your integration of this new energy.

It’s easy to feel overwhelmed and unable to move at all. On the other end of the scale, it may feel like you’ve been in a holding pattern, and can’t wait to dash off in this new direction. Or, like me, oscillating between the two. Don’t stress – you are doing great. Integration will be a slow unfolding between now and the equinox. Just keep moving, one step at a time, towards your future. It’s finally coming into focus, and will get clearer and stronger as we move towards Spring.

Be present, and focus on your heart chakra. Love and gratitude will help you stay open to your highest potential. Remember to take time out to breathe, and sit in the sun. Really be open and present, even if it’s two minutes here and there throughout your day. Let the future come to you in these moments – receive intuition, then act on that.

And remember you aren’t alone. Call on your guides and guardians to make their presence known, and to support you through this. It’s a whole new world out there, but your invisible team is cheering you on. You are loved, you are supported, and your participation in the ascension is so very appreciated.

Be gentle with yourself on all levels. You got this.

Is this energy crazy, or what? Wow. Whole lifetimes are flashing before my eyes. I don’t mean past lives, I mean present possibilities – timelines. I think the strangest part for me has been the feeling of grief and loss when these visions come and go. People I will never meet… love I will never know. How can I be so affected by a glimpse into a possibility? It’s crazy. The important thing to remember is that with each dissolving timeline, a higher potential takes its place.

Those actively anchoring the Light for the New Earth have been putting their energy into bringing about the highest possible outcome for all, including Gaia. Please consciously join in this effort. Also, be aware there is more energy leaving the planet than coming in, so play with reversing the flow (from root chakra up and out through crown chakra). Know that whatever leaves your life is putting you on a higher path. Don’t cling. What is meant for you will stay (or show up).

A big part of what’s leaving are the energies of the old archetypes. So basically, the story structures of everything around us. Marriage is changing to Union, Community to Unity, Warriors with weapons to Warriors of Light, Power hierarchy to Cooperation, Greed to Support… everything. All the stories are changing. For kids born in the last decade, the picture of marriage, kids, and a house in the suburbs won’t even cross their minds. For people who are really attached to their stories, it’s going to look like social collapse. It isn’t. It’s evolution, and all Gaia’s children will thrive.

Let everything go. Don’t cling to a story. Don’t beat yourself up about the past, and don’t waste time worrying about the future. Release everything, and try to stay in the flow of your heart – Love & Gratitude will bring you to your highest calling. Whenever you notice you’ve fallen out of your heart, just release the issue, and recenter yourself.

And then there’s the physical side. Holy wow. It’s been extreme pain for me, mostly in my joints, teeth, and bones. Whatever is going on with you physically is ok. Love and support your body. These stories are actually encoded in our DNA, and live in various places in our bodies. As these stories dissolve, they must leave the physical, which feels pretty unpleasant. Drink lots of water, eat lightly, spend time outside, and take Epsom salt baths. Nurture yourself through this. And tell your body what a great job its doing. It is a living creature, separate from your consciousness.

Things will shift with the New Moon & Eclipse on February 26, but the fallout will continue until the equinox. You are being picked out of your old life, and placed on a higher path… don’t get me wrong, nothing about this is easy, yet it is so exciting. We are here to break new ground, and we’re doing great!

 
Join me on GalacticU radio on Monday, February 27th, 2017 at 6 p.m. MDT, or listen to the playback at your convenience.

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I would love to tell you what’s going on out there, but this one is above my pay grade. It’s loud and uncomfortable, with a few scattered moments of pure bliss. One minute it feels like the pit of hell, the next it’s all sunshine and rainbows. Feels like another timeline jump.

I can tell you the incoming energy has been so strong it is pushing all the darkness out, an individual and collective purge. I usually ground the energy (through my body, into the Earth), but there is a greater need to help release the old, so I’m moving energy in the opposite direction. I’m moving it up and out my crown. This has been very helpful in relieving some physical ascension symptoms.

Speaking of ascension symptoms – wow! Mostly lungs and heart, but also headache, sinus pain, tinnitus, muscle cramps, and dramatic temperature changes. And then there’s the emotional outbursts, and general lack of focus. It’s been a rough week. I’m not planning on much improvement before the next eclipse on February 26, 2017. Just know you aren’t alone.

Keep putting one foot in front of the other, but allow the Universe a lot of flexibility right now. We are being moved to where we need to be. Free will is still required, and you need to take action in your life, but be happy with baby steps. Above us things are moving so fast all I hear most of the time is static, but on this plane, it’s like walking through mud. That’s ok.

I’ve found the most helpful things for me are to release whatever comes up (emotional or mental), keep my focus small (baby steps), and trust the Universe to put me right where I need to be. Also, your unseen team (Guides, Guardians, Angels) is readily available whenever you call. I talk out loud to mine several times a day, and can definitely feel them respond to me. You are supported.

As usual, and more so right now, stay connected. Meditate, spend time outside, sing, dance, whatever you do. Try to connect several times a day, just a few minutes here and there. Right now we all have ADD, so an hour of meditation is pretty tough, anyway.

Be gentle with yourself. All of our dimensions are being affected by this one. You are doing great. This, too, shall pass. You are supported and loved more than you know. Thank you for assisting in this transition.

The energy is amazing right now! Can you feel it? Let’s give it a go…

Love is a tricky thing to define, because we use that word to mean so many different experiences. Usually, we actually mean attachment, not love. Love isn’t confined by behaviors and roles, it’s much bigger than that. Would you want the best for someone, even if that meant never seeing them again (unconditional)? Or is your love for them based on a story or a chemical reaction (conditional)? Maybe that’s why it is said that the purest love is a mother’s love… she is fully aware that her child will leave one day to start its own life, and she only wants them to be happy.

Now let’s pretend you love yourself that way. Are you attached to a story, or are you willing to do anything for your happiness? I don’t mean selfish happiness, I mean true fulfillment. This is nothing money can buy, and it is only available by looking inward. If you just get the ego story out of the way, it’s in you, around you, creating all of our reality. Love is the fabric of the Universe.

Now we’re going to practice being totally in love. You don’t need another person for this, in fact, please don’t use a human. What else can you fall in love with? A tree, a pet, the moon… anything that makes you feel open and grateful. Now focus on your subject, and let all the stories fall away, leaving the feeling. Let it deepen and surround you. Feel it pulsing with your own heartbeat. Ahhh… to be in love!

Love always brings a sense of openness and lightness. Ma’at is the Egyptian Goddess who weighs your heart after death, on a balance scale with a feather. Makes sense. Joy, gratitude, and love free the heart, and it feels like floating. Dense emotions, like anger or fear, feel closed and heavy, a burden to carry. “Lighten up” becomes quite literal.

As with anything, this skill will improve with practice. Why would you want to? For one thing, it feels amazing! More importantly, Love raises your vibration. The more you produce it inside, the more it is reflected in your life. And mostly, this is how Heaven makes it to Earth – through you, one fleeting Love bubble at a time. Embrace it, encourage it, revel in it. Love really does make the world go round.

Enjoy the energy. Know that you are supported in unseen realms. Know that you are loved. Know that you are Love.

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I’m pretty sure we all know the basics, even if we don’t do them. Taking care of yourself includes a healthy diet, regular exercise, and plenty of sleep. We understand the physical part. Most of us even understand the mental and emotional parts: Be aware of what you read and watch for entertainment, avoid drama and negativity, even carefully choose what music you listen to regularly. All this has been said; you are what you consume, on all levels. I want to take the discussion a little deeper.

Balance. Balance between your own masculine and feminine energies. By being the observer and directer of your life, you can protect the feminine sacred space, while guiding the active force of the masculine. Boundaries and action. That’s the energetic blueprint of self-care.

Think of a child. The womb is the safe space for new life to develop. Even after the child enters the world, it must be nurtured and guided before it is ready to embark on its own adventure. Many of us go about life in the opposite manner, running off in all directions, without the protected space and guidance required for lasting success.

Your feminine energy is the part of you that creates a space, first in your mind then in your schedule. It needs to hold that space to encourage and guide the masculine energy of action. For example, you want to start a yoga practice. First, the idea forms in your mind, until it is so strong you do some research, and can see yourself doing yoga. You are mentally creating a space for something to grow. Then, you make room in your schedule to go to class twice a week. You are creating a space in your life to guide and encourage this new endeavor. Actually showing up and doing it is a result of your masculine energy of action. Boundaries and action.

Why break it down this way? Well, all too often we aren’t able to create lasting change, and without sufficient understanding of the process, we simply fall into shame and guilt, only adding to our frustration. By taking a step back into the role of observer, and seeing the process of change as a dance of inner energies, it allows for a new awareness.

It’s also worth mentioning what self-care isn’t, because our egos are so good at illusion and distraction. Checking-out isn’t self care. A night on the town getting drunk, vegging out in front of the tv, or treating yourself to the extra slice of cake, isn’t self-care, it’s checking out. Anything that results in a hangover or bloating isn’t care. We all do this to some degree, so don’t judge yourself,  just don’t mistake it for caring for yourself.

Pampering yourself may be included in self-care, but be sure it isn’t the whole package. A trip to the spa, or a weekend retreat make great additions, but don’t make up for daily wear-and-tear. Good food, plenty of rest, meditation, and some sort of physical activity are a daily ritual of self-care. If you are always running yourself ragged, but you think it’s ok because you get a massage every week, you are using that massage as recovery. The goal is to make a life you don’t need to recover from.

And don’t forget joy. Laughter, connecting with friends, gratitude journals, and anything that lifts your heart. This may seem like a lot when you look at it as a to-do list, but it’s really an outline for a lifestyle. Self-care is right up there with shadow (ego) work in creating an amazing life. You’ll be spending every tiny moment with yourself, so it’s totally worth it. Balancing boundaries and action. Take care of you.

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Memory has always fascinated me. Or at least, most people’s lack thereof. I’m only talking here about healthy adults, without any kind of disease or disability affecting the process of memory. Never feeling quite at home as a human, how the mind works is a constant source of amazement. How can some people remember nothing, while others have a photographic memory? More importantly, does it even matter? I believe it does, and that memory is tied directly to spiritual awakening.

All the esoteric knowledge points to memory as a vital part of spiritual development. When we are born we “forget” where we came from, and when we awaken we “remember”. No one teaches us anything, they just remind us of what we have forgotten. The story of Isis healing her partner, Osiris, by piecing him back together, or “re-membering” him. Memory is a big deal spiritually, but how does that look on a human level?

We all know the ego likes to mess with our memories, blocking things that differ from our beliefs, and embellishing what supports our patterns. We know that memories change over time, so many consider them unreliable. Here’s my current theory: If the person is ego-driven, then their memory is only utilized to support the ego; if a person is less ego-bound, then they are free to remember a much wider array of experiences and information.

We all have that friend who only remembers an experience if it is a peak high or low for them personally, but never has any recollection of what anyone else went through. It’s a very behaviorist existence – avoid pain, seek pleasure. Yes, we all do this at varying degrees, but I’m talking about people who live there most of the time. If memory is only used to seek pleasure, avoid pain, and bolster the ego, we are talking about some pretty animalistic behavior, but it may be a whole new angle on the nature vs. nurture debate.

The people I know with the best memories aren’t attached to the experience or information. Numbers are just numbers, facts are just facts, and experiences are just experiences, so they can remember them all, without picking the ones that support their ego. It’s not that they don’t have negative experiences, just that it isn’t what holds their story together. These folks have a sense of self outside of the ego story.

That said, we all fall along a continuum between the two. What’s more interesting, is that we are at different points on the line all the time. Told you memory is fascinating!

This also explains selective memory. Some people are great with facts and figures, but can’t remember interpersonal details. Are they ego-bound, but the ego has an attachment to being smart? Is their ego only triggered in personal interactions? I know some very intelligent people who do some pretty unconscious things, so the ego is playing a role.

This also explains abusers. I know a few people who had really abusive parents, and when they tried to discuss the issues (years later, as adults), the abuser had no recollection of the situation. Of course, that’s adding insult to injury, but maybe the abusers were so ego-bound that they really can’t remember the situation. My guess is they never will. I think this is why there is rarely an apology for abuse.

Even though I had an amazing childhood, there were several times I consciously chose to be less conscious, just because being awake was so painful. While I have vivid memories starting around 1-year-old, there are places (after choosing to be asleep) where I have very spotty and vague memories. Even though I am more awake now than I’ve ever been, with the coping skills to sustain it, I can’t get back those blank spots.

Then there is the other end – channeling. When people are so far from their ego, even briefly, they don’t have much memory of the information that comes through them. When I write or counsel I only remember broad topics, never detail. In my “human” life I have a detailed memory, but when information flows through me, I can’t hang onto it. So either end of the spectrum diminishes memory.

For years, I’ve believed that high I.Q. is just a good memory. The ability to adapt to new information requires a memory of the old. Finding patterns requires remembering a flow of information. As we collectively awaken, will the average I.Q. rise? Does meditation improve memory, not because of relaxation, but because it reminds us who we are? Sure will be interesting to watch.

Think back on your own memories… why did you pick those ones to hang onto? What areas are you currently trying to forget? Find your own patterns. And most of all, remember who you are.

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As you know by now, I love words, and how we use them to build concepts. The definitions I use aren’t the “right” ones, but it’s good to be really clear about meaning when you use a word, especially in conversation. One time I was talking to a co-worker, and used a word that to me meant “tree-hugging hippie”, but quickly found out that to him it meant “devil worshiper”. That’s a conversation stopper. The word was “pagan”. So let’s explore some words, and the concepts they represent…

First, let’s talk about observation. If I notice that you are wearing a blue shirt, we can all agree, that’s observation. The confusing part of this concept to me is that if I notice other (testable and mutually agreed upon facts), it’s considered judgmental. For example, I notice someone is obese, or short, or disabled, or even really smart. Why are humans stuck on the idea that equality requires homogeny? Observation does not include an assignment of better or worse.

Next, I may form an opinion based on my observation combined with my conditioning. For me, I consider the original information to be purely sensory input, until my brain starts adding right and wrong / good and bad. Noticing a blue shirt is one thing, deciding it looks either really good or really bad on that person is another. The longer I dwell on a subject, all the while adding commentary, lets me know how strongly opinionated I am about it.

Then we come to judgement. I have spent years trying to decipher this one, and I’ve boiled it down to this: Judgement is just a verbalized opinion. Once your opinion leaves the confines of your head, and enters the world around you, it will be noticed by others. If a person always gives compliments (positive judgements), then people feel relaxed in their presence. If they aways criticize, then people feel a bit on edge. One thing is for sure, if a person consistently verbally expresses their opinions, they will express them about you, as well, for better or worse.

Ending a sentence with “but that’s just my opinion” doesn’t make it any less of a judgement. Try it on… if someone tells you “your hairs looks bad” or “your hair looks bad, in my opinion” does it feel any different? People don’t really like to own their judgements, so they soften it by saying it’s just an opinion. It gives the speaker a little comfort zone of denial, but the words hit just as hard.

This is another one of those head scratching moments for me. Why do some people feel the need to constantly narrate their opinions? Are they seeking validation? Do they think the rest of us are missing something without their opinions? Do they just like the sound of their own voice? I’m sure it different for each person, but it’s a fascinating thing to watch. Like a blind person touching walls to define the space, their verbal chatter seems to define their world. Hmmm… never a dull moment, watching muggles.

Judgement also involves emotional attachment. It feels sticky. It usually includes “should” or “shouldn’t”, and can be directed at the self or others. It is generally negative and controlling. “I shouldn’t have eaten that ice cream, now I have failed at my diet.” “They should go to jail for speaking against war, it’s unpatriotic.” Lots of misguided control. Lots of condemnation. A black and white view of the world, usually based on conditioning. Pretty unpleasant stuff, really.

Many spiritual teachings warn us to watch our words. Words are powerful magic, both spoken and written. Beyond asking yourself if it is true, necessary, and kind before you speak, the deeper concern is asking yourself what your motivation is for sharing. Why are you speaking?  Are you being helpful or controlling? Are you sharing information to keep people informed, or  divided? What is really driving your need to speak? Know thyself.

Discernment is the decision you make for yourself, without attachment to anyone else’s behavior. Discernment feels very neutral, with no emotional charge. It’s isn’t a decision that needs to be shared or validated, it’s just what right for you. Birth control is an area of personal discernment. People try to make it political and emotional, but in the end, everyone needs to make the choice they need to make.  When we use discernment, we can see many sides to a situation, we weigh the options, and make a choice with a clear head. Then we let it go. Discernment doesn’t have strings attached.

And we just have to mention alternative facts. Those are just lies. I completely understand that “facts” change over time with our scientific perception (the world is no longer considered flat, nor does the sun revolve around it), but we collectively agree on things so we can communicate. We should always be open to new possibilities, and keep questioning social norms, but let’s not just start making stuff up to see if it catches on. We collectively agree to call the sky blue, so giving an “alternative fact” of it being orange isn’t in any way helpful to communication. Just don’t do it. Alternative realities and parallel universes are a different matter, but we always qualify them as “alternative”, not “fact”.

Then there are theories… like this one. There is no right or wrong, just an attempt to explain the world around me. All I can hope is that my rambling sparks your own thought process. I just want to throw out some possibilities for you to ponder. Do we really spend too much time thinking, or just too much time playing with our opinions? I leave it for you to discern.

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There are so many articles out there right now about the toxic relationship between an empath and a narcissist, obviously written by those who have been hurt, and feel manipulated and betrayed. I have a different take on the situation. Saw that one coming, didn’t you?

First, let’s change the labels of the groups. No more good vs. bad stuff. Instead of empath we will say awake (soul driven), instead of narcissist let’s say asleep (ego driven). Language matters. We can reduce the polarity, as well as provide a much more accurate assessment. Not only that, but I personally know people who are empathically gifted (they can physically feel other people’s emotions), but are very much asleep.

Second, know that all of us operate on a sliding scale between the two, and we change position regularly. We can be very awake, then suffer a loss (like a death or an illness), and go back to sleep to avoid the pain. People self-medicate all the time with alcohol, social excess, and promiscuous sex to avoid living consciously. Being awake can be tough. We all check out from time to time.

Third, and probably most importantly, we need to understand that most manipulative behavior is subconscious. People (generally) don’t consciously manipulate; that takes much more energy and planning than most are even capable of. The ego, however, has full access to the power of the subconscious, and will do anything to avoid harm. All of us are manipulated by our own egos, to some extent. It still isn’t right by any means, but thinking someone is consciously manipulating you is giving them way too much credit (and power).

Communicating with those still asleep is almost impossible, at least about anything important to the relationship. Ego defenses go up, and rational thought goes out the window. This is where we get all the passive-aggressive behaviors, and the emotional manipulation. Ever try to voice a concern about your feelings, only to have your partner turn it around, and point out how hurt they are? This is the kind of subconscious behavior that runs the muggle world. You can’t break through their ego shield, but many of us keep trying for way too long.

Another issue is projection… mostly on the part of the awakened person. See, we think projection is limited to negative stuff, but it isn’t. As we awaken, we get more sparkly, and we tend to see our own Light reflected in others – we see Light that hasn’t been embodied yet. The fact is everyone has an amazing soul, but not everyone lives from their soul. When you begin to live from your own soul, you see the highest potential in others. I don’t mean “he would be so successful if he just had confidence,” I mean “Wow! He embodies the Divine Masculine!” In reality, he could embody Divinity, if his ego wasn’t running the show. It is entirely up to us to distinguish potential from embodied reality.

I think the hardest part for the awakened one in these relationships is taking full responsibility for getting sucked in, having to leave, and not repeating the pattern. In other words, to awaken even further, become more aware, and reclaim our personal power. It’s tough to admit there were signs you ignored. It’s not fun to know you allowed this damage to happen. Forgive yourself. Forgive yourself for being human. We all do crazy things for love, even forget who we are. You always get lessons in the process. You will heal.

Instead of a list of things to avoid, I want to offer a few things to pay attention to. As we become more aware, we can make choices that support our evolution.

Do actions and words mach the sparkly soul? We all have off days, and no one is perfect, but is there constant negativity going on, in word or deed?
Are words followed by action? Do they do, or just dream? We all need a little daydream in our lives, but plans require action to materialize.
Are they consistent? Again, we all have off days, so don’t expect perfection, but intermittent reward is a major ego trick. If some behavior is really important to you, and the other person agrees to it, it should be a permanent change. If it only changes briefly after a fight, that’s a big sign.
Is communication open? Are you comfortable raising concerns? If your communications are filled with tears, blame, and guilt, then there isn’t much actual communication going on.
Do you both own your baggage? We all have baggage, but insisting the other person carry yours is completely unreasonable.
Are you both dedicated to becoming better people? If you are both dedicated to your own evolution, then you can help each other grow, instead of tearing each other down.

There are those who see the signs, but think they are strong enough to wait for the person they love to wake up. It just doesn’t work that way. People don’t wake up by following your example, people wake up by shock. Keeping someone safe in a relationship is just giving them a warm blanket to keep sleeping under. I’m so sorry – this one is really hard for me, too – you can’t awaken someone before they are ready. Ever. And forcing yourself to stay at a lower vibration will cause suffering and illness. It just does. The only way out, is out.

The awakened soul must reclaim their power by forgiving themselves, being clear with their boundaries, and letting go of those who are still sleeping. You will heal. You will love again. But first, you must come to terms with the situation. Leave them to their slumber, and move on. Reclaim your power.

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